Richard was overcome with feelings of chaos, guilt, and shame. His wife, Jane, had caught him red-handed. While driving by, she saw him walking out of a house with a woman in a nearby neighborhood. Jane recognized the lady, and knew that this lady’s husband had been traveling abroad for long periods of time.
Jane was overwhelmed with despair. She couldn't seem to find a way to piece herself back together after the heartbreak she had experienced. She couldn't believe that Richard could do this to them. What would happen to their children now? The shock was so intense that it felt like a million ants were crawling beneath her skin. She felt incredibly unsafe and unloved. It never occurred to her that Richard's constant excuses of being overloaded with work and working through the night were nothing but lies.
"While no one would even question the impact of trauma on soldiers returning from their time of loyal service, many people still don’t understand what trauma is. Some people have experienced trauma but may not even realize it. Women impacted by sexual deception and betrayal are among them. Instead of being blamed or shamed, women often feel relieved when they discover how they’ve been impacted by genuine trauma. Sexual deception is not simply a violation of trust or something betrayed wives need to get over. When a woman is reacting to sexual betrayal, it’s because she’s looking for two necessary things: safety and the truth. Understanding betrayal trauma is like putting on a whole new set of glasses to see the layered consequences and what is needed to recover."
"Intimate Deception" by Dr. Sherry Keffer
Jane and Richard are currently facing two options: separation or working towards restoring their relationship. If Jane chooses to forgive Richard and he, in turn, takes responsibility for his actions and commits to honesty, there may be hope for their relationship.
“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.””
John 8:32 NIV
This situation has caused severe trauma for Jane; and Richard has been hiding a past that led to the affair. They only solution is for Richard to come clean with ALL truth as they seek individual counsel to sought through the hurts, the past and the betrayal and couples counsel to restore ALL that was lost...
We are here to let you know that ALL things are possible! Yes, healing, forgiveness and restoration.
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